The law of detachment
Something I have been thinking about recently is how, in life, it’s important to have a strong balance of knowing what you want, yet not trying to control what is out of our hands. I have noticed patterns around me, basic things really, just like if you chase someone, they will run—so you should allow things in life to come to you. I think this rule really applies to relationships (friends and partners), as well as jobs, and truly anything that even has a tinge of status engrained into it. It’s truly important to keep in mind (and I can’t reiterate this enough) that when you stop trying to adjust and nitpick all the small details in your life, life will spit back in your face. Once you allow yourself to take a step back, success will seek you out.
With this, I’m not trying to undermine hard work, because trust me, I KNOW what it means to put in the effort. I actually think that these coincide. See, putting in time towards your goals isn’t attempting to manipulate a situation that is out of your control. Really, it is just adjusting the cards in your favor. Just to make what I’m saying clear—the law of detachment works hand in hand with your own actions. You must allow situations to come to you; however, that may only happen once you do the work to establish yourself into a position where your goals become possible.
Now, it’s time to get into how this relates to fashion. I know it may sound like I was just blabbering on about some psychology BS, but in the high fashion industry, the law of detachment becomes especially prevalent. When you think about the big couture houses such as Chanel, Dior, Hérmes, etc., you don’t think, “geez, they really are everywhere nowadays.” That’s because the clientele is curated. People who these brands deem worthy of their products will come to the brand, but the brand doesn’t come to them. You think about the Birkin—the most coveted bag among the elite. This bag isn’t accessible to everyone, which is probably the single aspect that makes the bag so desirable. Not just anyone can afford a $20,000+ bag; that’s why they don’t plaster advertisements on the sides of busses begging people to buy them. The most powerful advocates of their brand are the customers, who—just by walking around in public—vouch for the quality, elegance, and timeless aspect of the luxury house.
Why do fashion icons such as Kendall Jenner not just walk around wearing Shein clothing? Because the clothing she wears is a part of her identity in large. If Kendall Jenner started wearing Shein, her entire brand would shift from high-end to accessible. Let’s face it, status and clothing are like two peas in a pod. Nobody is a nobody if they are wearing the newest Dolce collection, and you can’t have a somebody who presents themselves wearing a clothing brand known for child labor.
Just as I begin to wrap things up, I want to tie everything together with the fact that what you wear reflects who you are, and you will attract what you don’t chase. If you have the power to display the most confident, put-together version of yourself, soon it won’t just be a “version.” You can decide what you want to be—so might as well shape what you can control about yourself, and after that, let everything else find you!
